You really get “it” & I am so glad that you do

Hello my friends, I really do apologize for being so long away from the blog!  It has been a summer of maintaining balance for me as there have been some bumpy roads to navigate emotionally and physically…not really an excuse to leave you all hanging out there, wondering where I have been; however, since this blog is really about controllable lifestyle issues, it has been great to know that I could create my own balance & take some personal pressure off by letting “the blog” roll in forward motion without my constant attention.  I really appreciate the fact that YOU GET IT!! THANK YOU!

Below is a quick article post about Gratitude from INC Magazine’s, inc.com author, Geoffrey James.  Funny, it rhymes with Attitude, and it can make or break your vision, your mission of living a better life or your ability to see past the nose on your very own face!

Story, quick reflection: Once a giant tree fell into my (new to me) house while my family & I were inside. Later a friend & neighbor said to me that  I was so ‘unlucky’. Silly, but I thought that it was  strange to think that I could still be standing there and be ‘unlucky’- no one was hurt, and I was so grateful for that!  I appreciated her sympathy for the situation but reminded her that it was “all good.” Things happen, find the good & give thanks for that good! 

Be glad, be thankful and live in forward motion! The post takes less than 5 minutes to read & is the

True Secret to Sucess (It’s Not What You Think)  Enjoy!

If you’re not exercising this emotional muscle, you’re probably setting yourself up for failure.

Box Car Racing

I’m utterly convinced that the key to lifelong success is the regular exercise of a single emotional muscle: gratitude.

People who approach life with a sense of gratitude are constantly aware of what’s wonderful in their life. Because they enjoy the fruits of their successes, they seek out more success. And when things don’t go as planned, people who are grateful can put failure into perspective.

By contrast, people who lack gratitude are never truly happy. If they succeed at a task, they don’t enjoy it. For them, a string of successes is like trying to fill a bucket with a huge leak in the bottom. And failure invariably makes them bitter, angry, and discouraged.

Therefore, if you want to be successful, you need to feel more gratitude. Fortunately, gratitude, like most emotions, is like a muscle: The more you use it, the stronger and more resilient it becomes.

Practice Nightly

The best time to exercise gratitude is just before bed. Take out your tablet (electronic or otherwise) and record the events of the day that created positive emotions, either in you or in those around you.

Did you help somebody solve a problem? Write it down. Did you connect with a colleague or friend? Write it down. Did you make somebody smile? Write it down.

What you’re doing is “programming your brain” to view your day more positively. You’re throwing mental focus on what worked well, and shrugging off what didn’t. As a result, you’ll sleep better, and you’ll wake up more refreshed.

Reprogramming Your Brain

More important, you’re also programming your brain to notice even more reasons to feel gratitude. You’ll quickly discover that even a “bad day” is full of moments that are worthy of gratitude. Success becomes sweeter; failure, less sour.

The more regularly you practice this exercise, the stronger its effects.

Over time, your “gratitude muscle” will become so strong that you’ll attract more success into your life, not to mention greater numbers of successful (i.e., grateful) people. You’ll also find yourself thanking people more often. That’s good for you and for them, too.

This method works. If you don’t believe me, try it for at least a week. You’ll be amazed at what a huge difference it makes.

“True Secret to Success: Gratitude” http://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/gratitude-true-secret-to-success.html?nav=next

Work-Life Balance?

Are you struggling to find the Work-Life balance that
everyone keeps talking about? Career, work, family obligations and family fun
too? Where is the time for you?

If this sounds familiar then it is time to take a deep
breath and give yourself a break! Life moves at the speed of light nowadays. We
all work and run off to some game or event that doesn’t even sound like fun because
there are so many other things you “should” be doing…STOP, breath deep and look
around! Enjoying the moment you are in will help the feelings of overwhelming commitment.

I have noticed that the cars are simply flying down my
street faster than ever.  This bothers me because I know that if an accident happens no time will be saved and it could even be worse.  Struggling with
balance first takes recognition that you are overwhelmed. Second, it takes inner commitment to your own desire to be in balance (aka:
you can’t do everything!)  and recognize that you have to let some things go.
Third, and most important, it takes an active ability to work toward balance.

Go for a jog when you get home, walk with your children after dinner, sit on the front porch and enjoy your neighborhood.  These same balancing acts can be applied at work: take a ten minute walk with a friend and talk about music or movies or find the picnic bench (you used to know where it was) for lunch once each week.

While performing these five and ten minute balancing acts, leave your phone, or whatever you choice of connectivity is, at your desk, in your purse, in a drawer or anywhere that is away from you because you need the opportunity to refocuss on yourself. This practice will bring a better sense of wellbeing and help with your work-life balance.

Be flexible In Forward Motion

So often my clients make excuses about their health based on something that happened and recently changed their “regular” routine.

“Oh, I broke my leg and haven’t worked out in 2 months” or “I just changed jobs and can’t fit ‘it’ in anymore.” Harder yet, I hear about caring for aging parents and sick children…these changes too soon become the new “routine” for people and will certainly add mental and physical stress! Stress adds to weight gain through sleep interruption in-turn leading to poor nutritional choices and self care if you are not aware of your own wellness when there is significant change. Wellness is 360 degrees of your life, take a few moments and regain perspective; remember, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it!

Anytime you have a condition or a situation that interrupts, or lays the foundation for interruption, lasting more than 2 weeks- you need to adjust yourself to stay on the positive side of your own wellness. After all, if you are breaking down while caring for an ill family member, then that presents a whole other set of problems to compensate for…

It is more important then ever, in the face of challenge or change to your “regular” routine (fitness, nutrition and balance), to find a way to recommit to yourself for your continued health and wellness maintenance. If there is a “change” to your life that lasts longer then 10 days-2 weeks and  takes you far from the opportunity to get to the gym or “shop & cook” the best foods, well, then it is actually your new wellness journey! Pivot and turn in the new direction remaining in forward motion! Keep your eye on the ultimate goal…maintaining your personal wellness for the best health you can achieve given the current circumstance.

Wellness is paramount in the face of uncertainty. You choose your journey to stay as well as you can…for your children, for your aging parents, for your spouse, for continued success in your career, etc.  Unless you are laid up in the hospital with an unforeseen challenge, you can seize the opportunity to be flexible. Remember, if you are not able to maintain your “gym” routine, put effort into staying active with 10 minute bursts of aerobic activities 3 times each day (Boom 10). Walk, do jumping jacks, practice deep breathing with long sustained stretching (there you go, 3-ten minute activities!) which can, at the very least, help maintain aerobic fitness and bust some stress, during times of significant change.

Finding yourself on the road more than usual make sure to grab fruit and hearty grain bars for the car because these are better nutritional choices then fast food or those awful gas station energy drinks! Continue to drink lots of water, staying hydrated adds a better sense of well being; it helps your skin by flushing out toxins released by stress hormones during changes that are tough. Plus recall some positive moments from your life that can bring you better perspective on your current challenge with a five-minute self reflection everyday.

Too often I hear about “falling off the wagon”; however, choosing wellness at all times is less of a wagon ride to fall off of! Plainly speaking, your feet are on the current road and when the road changes direction you shouldn’t be walking backwards- you have to stay in forward motion as you move into the next set of life’s journey. Making better choices often actually helps you stay as balanced as possible during the peak times of life change which are actually your current life-reality.

Writing on the Wall

When I figure out how to add a picture to the blog (remember this is new to me) then I’ll show you my daughter’s room.  She is an artist in every sense of the word: emotional, sensitive, generous, talented, inspiring, humours and messy!

Anyway, I made my way in there this morning and began reading her walls, I do this because I really do think she’s inspiring. Yep, she writes and draws on the walls …don’t worry, it’s white chalk & if that’s the worst thing she does then I am lucky. Anyway, I noticed that so many of her quotes dealt with speaking up, out or being heard, and I thought, “Ok, pretty typical of a 16 year old kid.” Then I pulled up some inspiring quotes about listening that I thought she could reflect on and left them smack on her computer. I also think this applies here, in a blog, as it does in a coaching session. Listening is such a powerful tool, and even though I do talk a lot, I try to be a great listener.

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood.
The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”  Ralph Nichols

He knew that listening is an art. So often we listen then want to jump in and share our experience too. It is connection and it helps lighten the load or brighten the moment. So, jump in, speak up or just listen…it’s all good.

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